Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Final
Out of all the readings this semester, I decided to cover articles that defined or tried to define what the third wave of feminism actually is. I chose the article by Belkin, Pipher and Faludi. I also used two chapters in the F Word, chapters five and seven. I decided to cover these five articles because they were the ones that stuck out in my mind from the semester. I picked them randomly, so I did have to sit there and think of how they all tied together, however.
First, Faludi talk about the backlash that the third generation is facing. She argues that women have not made it to equality because every time a goal is achieved, society comes back to push it back. She goes on to say that men are a huge problem and do not want women to succeed. Women are less happy than they were when they had less because they didn’t have to choose between public and private happiness. This tied in well with Pipher’s essay on girls going through adolescence. She explains how girls lose themselves because of the media, parents and peers. Young girls these days are constantly struggling to fit in with society and the path it has created. In return, the girls are completely unhappy and rebellious in trying to find themselves. Acceptance is the main goal of all girls in adolescence and women in the feminist movement. Chapter five of the F Word tries to define the third wave. The basic idea is that the third wave who is completely unhappy and unequal, is a combination of the first and second wave. This generation is expanding on what they do, but not using the freedoms given to their full advantage. This was made clear by the video clip we watched in class about the women opting out of the workforce. A woman of the second generation was very judgmental and disapproving of the women not working and having a family. Belkin’s article on women opting out was closely tied to this belief. She wrote about very highly educated upper class women who were choosing to leave their six figure salaries to stay at home with their children. This is was such an issue because these women would have been the next CEO’s of the Fortune 500 companies. But who is to say how women should be in their own relationships? Chapter seven of the F Word talked about the variety of ways women were in relationships today. There are more single women, women waiting longer to marry and still a 50% divorce rate for married couples. Apparently, it is only now acceptable for women to have opposing political views than their husbands in today’s society. This chapter also examined same-sex marriage and the belief that they should have the right to legally marry.
These five articles are tie together because they discuss and depict how women of the third generation should be, act and feel. They get into the root of the issues today with the third generation and explore what the generation is doing. All of these articles have been important to how I understand Women’s Studies because it gave me insight to how feminists in today’s time think and feel about how far or not so far women have come. I personally never felt held back or unhappy with being a young woman but these articles show that the older women in the feminist movement have not achieved what they had aspired to by this point in time.
My only question to everyone who reads and writes these articles is why is the glass always half empty than half full? I feel like the feminist movement is a huge negative movement because all it focuses on is what has not been achieved. I am not saying we shouldn’t look to the future and progress as women, but honestly, our lives are not bad and we can do what we want whether it requires extra work or not. If a women plans and wants to really make it in the career world, she should set her mind to it and break the mold no matter how hard she has to work. If life was always easy, where would the sense of accomplishment be? No, this is not fair, but when has life ever been fair. All I am saying is there are so many worse things that people throughout the centuries have had to endure in order to merely survive. Women today are not struggling to survive; they are thriving in the world and constantly achieve what is thought to be impossible. Look at the single mother raising children on a low salary and all by herself. Look at the women in the higher government positions who are pathing the way for women in upcoming generations. Look at the women who get to choose whether or not they work or stay at home with the kids. There are endless examples of strong women making it through life whether it’s a hardship or not. For my future, I hope I can break through some stereotypes and look past what I haven’t been given and look at what has been done. I plan to be the first girl to work a full-time position in a laboring field where there has only been men. I get insulted when people tell me not to do the dirty work. I want to and I will. I plan to show people that women are not innocent and fragile creature. They are strong and powerful who can do anything.
Essay 2
Feminism. Before this class, my idea of feminism was completely warped. I thought that feminists were women who wanted to rule the world and kill all men. This was clearly not as accurate at all. From this class, I now know that feminists are much worse. I have found feminists to be the most pessimistic group of individuals that I have ever learned about. All of our readings complain about society and how patriarchy is ruining the world. As our teacher, you have even talked about women being commodities and being considered property. I take offense to that. The Bible talks about the bond of marriage between a man and a woman should be the type of relationship one should have with God. How could that be negative? Where does the line get drawn?
How dare anyone judge me for the way I choose to live my life as a strong and independent woman. From this class, I have learned to define feminism as a movement dedicated to always pointing out what is unjust for women. I have yet to read anything that is uplifting on the movement so far. Feminism is defined as having a choice. It’s sad that your fellow sisters in the movement won’t always support the path you get to choose. All I hear is negative bashing of today’s society. In my personal opinion, I think the feminist movement will always have a cause because the issue is always being brought up. It is the same thing with race for me. The only reason race is still such a huge issue, is because people make it one. No, the new Auburn coach was not hired over a black man because he was a black man. Look at sports today, 90% of the most talented athletes are black. Such accusations are obscured.
The third wave is a generation of women who are a combination of the first and second wave. My generation is the third wave. My generation is full of women who are going full throttle for the feminist cause. My generation is full of women choosing how they wish to live their lives, publicly and privately. My generation is full of women who simply don’t care. My generation is every young girl who aspires to be something in life, whether that’s a career woman or a homemaker. The third generation is a group of women who get to make their own decisions. They are all great in every way. From the previous essay, I talked about five of the readings. In all honesty, those were the ones I could stomach the most. Yes, there were issues and points where I did agree. For instance, I do agree that relationships are completely different now. I believe that women are choosing to be independent, single or holding off having a man in their lives. Good for women everywhere for saying that they don’t wish to get married or have kids. Good for women everywhere who are deciding that that way of life is the right one for them. I agree with Pipher that girls are loosing themselves through adolescence. I do think that this has been an issue for centuries, though. The past decades are the first times women are allowed to grow up and be what they want, not forced to fit a cookie cutter mold. The Belkin article was by far my favorite, though. It explored the minds and thoughts of women who are going against what many believe is the feminist movement. These women who are choosing to stay at home are supposedly ruining society for the rest of the female gender. I disagree. I think the whole purpose of the feminist movement was to give women the chance to choose. The choice is what the feminist movement is all about. The choice to do anything and everything.
I think this course should have been called Feminism 101. To me, there were so many different and amazing things we could have learned about. People, events and places that inspire could have been discussed. I do not think this class really went into Women’s Studies very well at all. I have previously taken a Women’s Studies class that I enjoyed thoroughly even though I didn’t always agree with the teacher or the class. It was inspiring because Dr. Skeeters was able to spark our critical thinking on the subject of being a woman. Women Studies classes should be focused on what once was, what is now and what is to come. This class was extremely negative and failed to really highlight the positives or even the women who made that possible. Ironed Jawed Angels was really the only insight we learned about women gaining the right to vote. To me, this is the beginning of greatness for women, and we barely discussed or got to study it.
If it is already not clear enough, I am definitely not a feminist. I believe I am person who wants greatness for men and women. Women are biologically engineered differently than men and that’s a fact. I suppose the main reason I do not want or will ever be considered a feminist is because I do not want to judge a person for having the ability to make a choice, a choice they feel is the right one for them. Everyone is different and deserves to do as they please. Wasn't that one of the most important foundations our country was built on by our founding fathers? Just having the right to have a choice was a difficult thing to come by. To me, feminism is having the choice and feminists do not respect a lot of those choices.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Seeing Gender
Monday, November 10, 2008
Blog #10
This is a gender issue because this organization fights for the reproductive rights of women. It's entire mission is to protect the rights women have to make their own discesions for their bodies.
Monday, November 3, 2008
Gender Paper
The one scene that stands out the most to me is when Billy's ballet teacher comes and talks to his dad. Billy's dad was the typical manly father who wouldn't allow his son to be a ballet dancer. Billy's father screams and yells at the teacher that she will not tell him how to raise his child. Billy's father is very in control and steadfast in his position. The teacher argues back to his father, but of course ends up giving in at the end. The grandmother is in the scene not saying anything, just letting Billy's father say everything. Billy doesn't get to say anything either. In this household, the father is in charge and no one else. The women are "submissive" or let the men control, and the men are boisterous and controlling.
In Tannen's article "Put Down that Paper and Talk to Me," she talks about the difference in how men and women talk. She says that women generally talk more than men verbally, but men speak more through body language. Also, the amount that a man or women talk is due to status a lot. Men are seen talking more because they talk more in public. In the households, women are the primary talkers, however. Women tend to talk for rapport and men talk to gain information. This ties into the movie because the father is the primary talker in the household when issues come up. It is interesting, though, that in times where they were sitting around the house, they sat usually in silence or had very little conversation. This could be due to the fact that Billy's mother was deceased and the grandmother was the only woman of the household.
Monday, October 27, 2008
Blog 9
Monday, October 20, 2008
Post 8
In this advertisement, a beautiful and slender blond women finds a good looking man over a martini with Skyy Vodka. The text is only the name of the vodka, Skyy. In this advertisement, gender is represented by the stereotypes of good looking young men and women in today's society. It also gives the idea that two people can be attracted and connect over alcohol. To me, it is just typical of how the women is showing a lot of skin with the backless dress and the long slit up her leg. The man is dressed in a nice suit. This advertisement just embodies what Wolf talks about in her definition of "beauty." The media has portrayed what men and women should look like to be beautiful and it is completely incorrect. Also, this demonstrates that two beautiful people attract one another. In accordance to Scott, this advertisement shows how fashion for women and men are also in the definition of beauty. These two people in this ad are clearly dressed in outfits that would be trendy and in style. Overall, this advertisement is full of stereotypes that is portrayed now for young men and women.
Monday, October 13, 2008
Ethnographic Paper
For my research, I decided to look at the whether or not women should enter the draft. I decided to specifically look at this issue since the feminist movement is trying to achieve equal treatment and rights for all women. Also, I thought this would be interesting because I figured most people would agree that women should not be drafted. The thought that people who agree and support the feminist movement might not agree with women being drafted was very irritating. I feel that if women want to be treated as equals and have equal rights, the draft should be included in that equality. In order to investigate this further, I will need to interview a woman who is serving or has served in any of our armed forces. I think it would also be beneficial to interview a supporter of the feminist movement and get an opinion from that perspective.
In order to gather information, I plan on visiting the University of Oklahoma Armory Center and talking to a woman ROTC member. My focus is really on whether or not an actual member of the armed forces believes woman should be drafted. I plan on observing a woman in ROTC at OU while completing some of her duties.
For the interview, I plan to ask whether she has ever felt discriminated against for being a woman in ROTC. I want to ask if she thinks there is a difference in men and women in the military and which gender may be more useful at certain tasks they may have to perform. I want to know if the difference in physical strength plays much of a role. Also, I would like to know if there are jobs that are normally gender specific, whether the job is for men or women. Then, I would like to ask about the draft and if women should be drafted. Depending on her answer, I would like to know why she thinks the way she does. If she believes women should not be drafted, then my question would be why you would expect equality if you wanted to be excluded from the draft.
In my observation period, I was able to witness how the women in ROTC interacted and were treated just as all of the guys were treated. There was no evidence of discrimination or treating the girls differently. It seemed to me that all the members believed that they were all equal. Girls were expected to do the same things as guys. They didn’t do anything special, but having some of them together looked like a group of all guys or all girls. Through my interview, I was able to learn that discrimination did not occur. Physical strength is a very small part of everything and the jobs are not gender specific. She felt that the draft should not extend to women because they need to stay at home with their families. Then, I asked if she believed in the feminist movement and she did. I found this to be ironic since equality is the purpose of the movement. This kind of double standard is not appropriate; you cannot select where you want equality and expect to get it.
According to our readings, there are certain jobs that are considered “pink collar” or especially made and dominated by women. This also goes along with the idea that women cannot complete a man’s job with great success. These jobs are dominated and run by men. From my observation with the women in OU’s ROTC program, this is not true. Most people do not think of a woman being a soldier, but many are. Also, many of our readings talked about discrimination in the work place, especially in one dominate by men, but there was no evidence or mention of it in my interview and observation. What could be missing is that in different parts of the country in different fields, discrimination could be occurring. Anthropologists need to examine different fields in different areas to have a better idea.
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Blog #7
Monday, September 29, 2008
Blog #6
For my play list I chose the following tracks:
1. Beautiful: I thought this song was appropriate because of the images Hollywood and the media place on true womanly beauty. It just talks about self esteem and loving yourself the way we all should.
2.Survivor: I thought that this song displayed the determination and strength women hold against and without men. It talks about how women will keep going and can work harder, which is something that once upon a time men didn't believe could happen.
3. She's Everything: I love this song. To me, it talks about everything and anything a woman can be. I love how it mentions things that are normally associated with women such as bubble baths, chocolate and being moody.
4. Ticks: I thought this song displayed the stereotypes of both men and women in the bar atmosphere. My favorite and most cliche part of the song is when he says that he would like the see more of the butterfly tattoo hanging out of her jeans. The whole song is about a guy wanted to get with a girl in a "helpful" way.
5. Waiting on a Woman: This song just completely embraces the stereotype of women always being late and making a man wait. This is especially true with the first date and trying to be "fashionably late."
6.I'm Still a Guy: This is my favorite out of all the songs. It just completely demonstrates the differences in how men and women think. It talks about how a girl will want to doll up her man and make him less masculine. The men on the other hand try to do the most manly things they could to stay a true man.
My taste in music really has not changed over the years. I have always loved country music and have never really been a big fan of rap.
In the Reviving Ophelia, I found it very difficult to relate and support the argument. When I was a child, I wanted to be just like my dad. I guess you could call me his son before he had a son. Never once did my parents tell or ask me to be more like a girl. My mom put me in dance just to see if I liked it and when I hated it, she did not hesitate to let me pick the sports I wanted to play. I never had to lose my identity to be more feminine. I do agree with Pipher in that culture does define gender, but I feel that there are many exceptions to that. I don't feel like I have to be like culture thinks, though. Especially with people nowadays that redefine gender all together, transgender people are opening a more broader definition and belief of gender all together. They are also expanding culture's expectations and thoughts on gender.
I would have to say that I agree completely with Kendlon. I feel that women in the third wave has benefited from the two previous. I honestly feel that there is nothing I can not do and nothing I could possibly be held back from. Especially in days like today with a vice president nominee being a woman and an African American man nominated for the president.